If life is anything, it’s unpredictable. Circumstances can change at any given moment, and consistency can be interrupted at any time. If you’ve contemplated the geometry of a fractal, you’ve probably noticed that its nonlinear contours and controlled chaos are much more true to life than the clean lines of a square.

This controlled chaos is especially true in human relationships. After all, human desire fluctuates to its own beat and rarely coincides with logic. This could be a factor in why some divorced or separated couples end up getting back together. However, whether they will move past their past conflicts or remarry depends on a number of factors.

If you are wondering whether or not you will get back together with your ex-spouse following a divorce, this article should prove helpful. It will examine the key factors that lead to reconciliation and provide some food for thought regarding whether reconciliation is the right choice.

Reconciliation Takes Work

Reconciliation can be an arduous process for both parties. That’s because old habits do tend to die hard, and true change can be elusive. Many couples that get back together quickly fall into their old routines, which allows the same old problems to resurface. 

No matter how difficult it may be to change, many of these problems can be overcome with the right amount of diligence and work. When evaluating the factors that can lead to reconciliation, there are three that are more superfluous than others.


Children give couples incentives to stay together. Couples that do not have children might be more inclined to explore other options elsewhere. That’s because people who want to have children want to have them with an ideal spouse, and those who already have children usually want to raise them in a loving household. 

Additionally, even if a couple with children divorces, they will continue to see one another due to a shared obligation to their children. This can lead to rekindled feelings and eventual reconciliation.

Length of Marriage

If you have been with your partner for decades, there is a higher likelihood that the relationship can be saved. That’s because couples with years of shared history often find it less difficult to move past all those feelings and memories. However, this is not always the case, and every individual is different.

What Led to the Divorce

Marriages can end for a variety of reasons. While everyone’s feelings are valid in the context of a divorce, some of these reasons are more egregious than others. If one of the parties has committed an act that the other spouse determines is unforgivable, the chances of reconciliation are slim.

If the reasons for divorce were more temporary, such as a lack of enthusiasm or a lapse in communication, there are still chances that the relationship could be saved.

Reconciliation Is Difficult

Reconciliation is a big decision with many potential outcomes. Some people find it easier to start fresh with a new partner or enjoy the single life for a while. On the other hand, some people find renewed vigor with their former partner and are able to move past the issues that used to drag them down.

The potential for reconciliation mandates some important considerations. For example, both parties should consider why they got divorced in the first place and what factors have changed since the divorce. If both parties are making consistent and meaningful strides toward self-improvement, the odds of reconciliation are much higher.

Now that you have a better understanding of what reconciliation entails, you can approach your separation with more insight and understanding of your partner’s position.

Contact the Divorce Lawyers at Crystal Wright Law To Get Legal Assistance Today

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