Crystal Wright | April 2, 2025 | Divorce
Many relationships experience rough patches, but certain changes in a marriage can indicate that it may be ending. While divorce is a personal and complex decision, recognizing common signs early can help individuals protect themselves.
Some of the most consistent predictors include communication breakdowns, emotional withdrawal, and what relationship researchers call the “Four Horsemen.” These signs, individually or combined, often mark a shift in relationship dynamics.
The First Sign Is Often Communication Breakdown
A healthy marriage depends on engaging in open and respectful communication. When partners stop sharing details about their lives or avoid important conversations, this connection erodes. This often starts with conversations becoming less frequent or couples having more frequent misunderstandings.
Eventually, trying to resolve conflict becomes a rare thing. Couples may try to avoid disagreements altogether or engage in over-the-top heated arguments that never resolve and ultimately end in divorce.
Emotional Disengagement Can Create Distance
A growing emotional gap between spouses often signals deeper concerns. One or both partners may become indifferent to each other’s thoughts and feelings. This type of disengagement is what often leads to partners choosing to live separate lives. They no longer spend time together, pursue shared hobbies, or eat at the same time.
The Four Horsemen: Patterns That Predict Divorce
Dr. John Gottman, an American psychologist and relationship expert, discusses four behaviors that are often the culprits in marriage breakdowns.
- Criticism: attacking a partner’s character instead of addressing specific actions that are bothersome or causing conflict
- Contempt: expressing disdain or disgust toward a partner, often through the use of sarcasm and insults
- Defensiveness: choosing to shift blame or refusing to accept responsibility for your own actions
- Stonewalling: emotionally shutting down or refusing to engage in meaningful conversation to solve a problem or concern
When these behaviors occur regularly, it can indicate that there is a lack of mutual respect and understanding.
Intimacy May Decline In Troubled Marriage
Intimacy doesn’t mean just sexual contact; sometimes, a drop in physical or emotional intimacy can also be an indicator. Intimacy can mean small daily gestures like hugs, holding hands, or even just remembering to check in emotionally. When this type of affection begins to dwindle, it can be a sign of a growing divide between partners.
Behavioral Shifts May Signal Bigger Changes
Certain changes in behavior or lifestyle can also raise red flags in a marriage. Some of the biggest signs that there could potentially be a concern include:
- Increased time away from home
- Secretive phone or text habits
- Greater interest in appearance or personal independence
- Changes in spending habits or finances
While these behaviors may not always indicate a problem, they can often suggest that a partner is preparing for a significant life transition, possibly divorce.
Stress May Present Physically Or Emotionally
Marital stress can take a toll on mental and physical health. Individuals who are in high-conflict relationships may experience fatigue, headaches, insomnia, or anxiety. Others may withdraw socially or emotionally as a way of coping.
In some cases, a person may prepare for divorce quietly, separating finances, changing schedules, or even meeting with legal professionals to discuss options.
When To Pay Attention To These Signs
Keep in mind that just being in a difficult period in your marriage doesn’t always mean you are heading for divorce. Many couples can work through conflict successfully with the guidance of a therapist or with open communication. However, if multiple signs are present and the situation doesn’t improve over time, this may indicate that the marriage is nearing its end.
Whether a person chooses to proceed with a divorce, understanding the reasons leading up to that decision can help clarify a difficult situation. A thoughtful and informed approach can make a painful process much more manageable.
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